My Approach

Rather than focusing heavily on your story – the narrative of who you are and what happened to you – I work with what’s actually happening in your direct experience right now. Here’s how:

Becoming aware of the patterns of the mind and of the body. Most of us live almost entirely in our heads, entranced by thinking and storytelling. We forget we have a body, forget to notice the constant changing landscape of internal sensations. 

Believing your story keeps you caught in the loop, unable to glimpse alternative perspectives. By examining and questioning specific beliefs and not trying to replace them with “better” ones, you can start to see how they function and see what task they are trying to perform. 

Often what we think we’re experiencing isn’t what’s actually happening. A belief like “I’m not safe” might be the nervous system’s old interpretation of childhood conditions, still operating as if those conditions are present. When you can see the belief as a pattern rather than as truth, its grip can naturally loosen.

These types of  investigation can allow for less contraction around defending a fixed identity, less need to make the present wrong so the future can be right, less automatic suffering generated by the space between “what is” and “what should be”.

The discovery process can feel overwhelming. If you’re unsure where to start, I’ll help you explore the origins of your recurring thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors, not to create a better story about yourself, but to see how the current story functions and what it’s costing you.

This isn’t quick work. It requires sustained curiosity to investigate what’s happening beneath your habitual patterns, the physical sensations, the beliefs operating unconsciously and the ways your nervous system has organised itself. It takes patience to allow the system to reorganise rather than trying to force change through willpower.

I work with people who are genuinely curious about their patterns and willing to look honestly at what’s actually happening, not those seeking to be “fixed” or given a method that will solve everything. Most of the real work happens outside our sessions, in noticing patterns as they arise, staying present with ‘uncomfortable’ sensations and questioning beliefs when they appear. 

After a fairly mainstream career in London, I had everything society said I should want. But one morning on my commute, I looked around at everyone on the train and wondered: what are we all doing? Five days a week, year after year, the same journey, living for weekends and holidays. Something felt fundamentally off – not just for me, but about how we’re all living. We seem so disconnected from ourselves and caught in patterns of work and consumption that nobody really questions.

I had a strong sense there was more to all of this, though I didn’t quite know what that meant.

So I started exploring. Spirituality didn’t seem to hold answers for me. Neither did religion, traditional therapy or life coaching. I read extensively and became deeply curious about my own patterns: where did my beliefs actually come from? Why did I react the way I did? What was driving my choices?

I was surprised to discover how much of what I thought was “me” was just absorbed conditioning – beliefs I’d never questioned, opinions I’d inherited, patterns I’d learned early on. I noticed that when I could see these patterns clearly, they often loosened naturally, without needing to be forced, fixed or replaced.

During this period I trained as an RTT Hypnotherapist with Marisa Peer. The work was interesting –  find the limiting belief, reframe it and therefore help clients function better. And it did work to a degree, but it felt incomplete. I also kept bumping up against a deeper question: if so much of our mind is externally conditioned, who actually is “me”? Am I the constant stream of thoughts? The part that judges? The part that needs to be useful to feel valuable? The more I looked, the less solid any of it seemed. What I thought was “me” was mostly just patterns – some helpful, some not, but none of them fundamental truth.  That’s when things can get interesting….

A Different Approach

I’ve spent years studying psychology, neuroscience, somatic therapies, the mind-body connection, trauma, and various approaches to understanding the ‘human experience’. One of the clearest insights was that if you stay focused purely on the mind and try to understand it, fix it, improve it, you can spend decades spinning without actually shifting anything fundamental.

Real change happens differently.

If you’re interested and want to know more, book a free 20-minute phone or video call with me. Due to the nature of the work, it’s important we are both comfortable working with each other, so this short initial session is also a good way to find out.