Getting beyond your story

The most important aspect to come to terms with is that you are not who you believe yourself to be. The you that suffers, isn’t really you, it’s just what happened to you. All your thoughts, beliefs, judgements, actions to obtain happiness, wealth, knowledge, control and love are all empty and can never bring what you are seeking. When you exist in the realm of the mind and thoughts, peace, fulfilment and happiness will always be projected into a future time or event. Most of us have a near constant dissatisfaction with what is happening ‘now’ and always look for something to change for us to be ok.

The goal is not to try and substitute belief systems for ‘improved’ ones, as this would be like rearranging the furniture in a prison cell to make it more comfortable. All belief systems are limiting. We don’t need to get caught up in a ‘healing journey’ or ways of trying to fix the mind, we just need to understand that our story is just a story of what happened to us and not who we are.

When we become aware of how the mind works, we also realise that we haven’t been living in the world, we’ve been living in our world. We view life through the lens of our story – and each of us has our own unique version.

Once we begin to clean that lens, we can start to view things as they are, not as we are. If we can really start to see the truth of our reality we can begin to let go of all our psychological hurts, attachments, fears, and anxieties.

Our biology responds to our state of being, therefore our health is linked to our beliefs, thoughts, behaviours and nervous system (specifically our Vagus nerve). This mind/body link is based on extensive scientific research that confirms the role stress and our emotional makeup play in many of our common diseases such as arthritis, diabetes, heart disease, autoimmune diseases, cancer and multiple sclerosis.

The problems that arise in the body are known as symptoms and we’ve been told that symptoms are bad; we become a victim to these symptoms and believe we are powerless to heal them. Unfortunately in the mainstream allopathic medical model, we rarely, if ever, get to the root cause and the reason for the symptom. We are just given medication, surgery or treatments in an attempt to remove or alleviate these symptoms without ever knowing why they occurred. That system believes we are mechanistic, purely physical beings and dismisses the link between biology and psychology, which in fact are not separate at all. They also believe we function in isolation from the environment in which we develop, live, work and relax. Doctors rarely ask about our psychological state, childhood family dynamics or what was going on in our lives before the onset of the symptoms.

Symptoms are not there to cause suffering – they have meaning and are there to help us understand the areas of our story that are negatively impacting us and causing our internal environment to become stressed and disordered, for example self-betrayal and repressing emotions. When we can see that much of who we believe ourselves to be is an illusion, we can allow ourselves to stop struggling and flow through life without constantly getting caught up in our story and living in the obligation of being ‘me’ and fulfilling a role. Understanding this link is start of returning the body to a state of health.

If you’re interested and want to know more, book a free 20-minute phone or video call with me. Due to the nature of the work, it’s important we are both comfortable working with each other, so this short initial session is also a good way to find out.